It’s habit, I know. “Good job!” We love our babies. We get excited when they do new things.
But why “Good job!”? Is it necessary? Is it helpful? I mean, let’s really look this question in the face. We all have different influences. Why do you say “Good job!”?
- To show love and pride?
- Grow Baby’s self esteem?
- Because popular literature says to?
- To avoid behavior issues?
- That’s what was said to you?
- For the satisfaction of Baby looking to you for approval? (hey, honest question!)
- Were you accepted as a child simply as who you are? Or for what you did (or didn’t)?
Invitation: does “Good job!” really foster what you think it’s fostering? I point you to an article by Jennifer Lehr: “Good Job!” Please indulge in her words as I try to keep my post shorter!
Let’s challenge popular thinking and make sure we’re actually saying what we mean to say!
For more reading, see:
- Alfie Kohn, “5 Reasons to Stop Saying “Good Job!”
- My post, “Is It Really Okay When We Say “It’s Okay”?
Eliza Parker is a certified Infant Developmental Movement Educator®, Body-Mind Centering® Practitioner, Feldenkrais® Practitioner, and Spiritual Counselor. She also uses Aletha Solter’s Aware Parenting.
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